Iíve always had a problem with New Yearís resolutions. Many people have given up on them. Why? Studies show they donít work.
I searched for answers, and found the usual. The top reasons for failed resolutions seem to be things like a lack of consequences, a lack of specificity, being too big, not enough external support, not writing them down, depending on someone else, no real commitment. Blah, blah, blah.
Typical goal-setting stuff, but I donít think the answer lies there. I think weíre going about it all wrong.
The word resolution means determination, firmness of purpose, settling a problem, making a declaration or finding a solution.
It takes resolve. In other words we are re-solving a problem, or something that is unsatisfactory in our lives. Itís like weíre thinking we need to be fixed, again.
How negative! No wonder we arenít motivated to achieve our resolutions. Why not create something different to inspire ourselves?
I like the word aspiration. It means ambition, longing for something of higher value, a cherished desire. The root word means to breathe on, or to give life to. Instead of making resolutions, think about your aspirations.
Sometimes the obstacles we meet along the way are our own creations. Motivate yourself with aspirations, and let the resolutions go!
There is nothing wrong with you as you are. But, that doesnít mean you arenít still growing:
ē Think of your life as an evolution, a continuum - not something to fix.
ē Relish your recent accomplishments, achievements, lessons, insights.
ē Daydream about where you might go next - what you would like to do.
ē Devise a plan to incorporate your aspirations into your everyday life.
Make aspirations instead of resolutions because they will inspire you!
Chris Waugh is a business consultant, author and speaker who ďlends wings to your success.Ē Visit ChrisWaugh.com or Facebook.com/chriswaughonthefly for more.
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